(sorry if you're one of my guy friends and i'm using something you said as an example... know that i am talking about all of your gender and not just you. :D)
they say things that overly complimentary like, "i think you're smokin' hott!" or "you have the prettiest big blue eyes i've ever seen." or (from a poem received), "we'll work on this friendship and see where it goes." or (my personal favorite) "you twirl at a great equilibrium."
although i'm not entirely certain what this last one means, i'm pretty sure that all of the above can be taken differently. And of course, over analyzed to the extreme.
they can also be extra flirty by adding things like "a woman after my own heart", "mornin' sunshine.", "i think you dance really cute." or "we might need to save that for the 8th date."
if a guy said any of these things to you what on earth are you supposed to think? That they just want to be your friend?
So then if you finally get up the nerve to tell them that they are confusing and they ask "why?". Oh, no problem, i'll just confess to you that i think you're a flirt and here is their responses- "is it kind of a turn on?", "does it make me more mysterious?" "so, you like it?" "i kind of am."
no answer that in return helps the girl know where she stands. gee whiz.
so then you think about every word individually (dramatized, obviously...) and come up with a wide array of options for what they could mean. Ranging from a-they must like you cause why would they ask you if you liked it if they didn't? b-they don't like me because they would just tell me if they did. c- they may or may not like me. or (my personal favorite) d- they're probably gay because they used the word mysterious. (JOKE!... haha)
They tell you weird stories or say weird things and act like they are cool for doing it like they are showing off to impress us. But when in reality it is not a flattering thing. So while we sit and wonder why a boy told us about his obsession with Justin Bieber we might think, "cute! he's trying to impress us." or "why the heck would he think loving Justin Bieber is a cool thing?" or "what was the point to that story?..."
when they ask you to do something they never ever call it a date. EVER. i've gotten- "can I steal you right now?" "wanna watch a movie?" "wanna hang out?" "what are you doing right now?" but extremely (never) rare is "will you go on a date with me?..." I mean it's EIGHT words long. It's not like studying for a test people!
so then someone asks, "well was it a date?" and my answer is always, "i'm not entirely sure." because i am rarely entirely sure if it's a date or not.
or they will text you and ask you to do something. Which is even less date-like. And then you are borderline saying no because he can't even call you.
I'm sure there are about a million other ways that they are confusing like- winking, tickling, back rubbing, pushing, grinning, teasing, etc.
Boys are a very confusing gender. The funny thing is that girls just want to know what they think. They just don't ever give up their feelings like we do. So here we are completely vulnerable because we pour our hearts (so to speak) out and then we get an, "o, okay." or a "does this make me more mysterious?" type answer.
i think by the time i'm done with dating and college i'll be a pro at analyzing boys. i'll just never quite understand why they do the things they do.
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